postpartum anxiety and depression treatment
Motherhood has not played out the way you envisioned it. You may have expected to feel an overwhelming sense of joy, but instead, you’re feeling constantly anxious, exhausted, and disconnected. Before, you were the master of productivity, someone who could juggle multiple tasks and do it all well - you knew how to get things done. But now, as a new mom, you feel like you're drowning in the sea of endless responsibilities. Every task feels monumental yet mundane, and it’s hard to ask for help when you know it won’t be done “right.”
You feel isolated yet desperate for time to yourself and you're overwhelmed by the constant needs of your baby. The days feel endless, yet your baby seems to grow up so quickly. Time seems to drag, but you feel guilty for wishing it away. You find yourself paralyzed by thoughts that oscillate between, “What if I drop the baby?” and, “Am I a terrible mother?” The combination of exhaustion, guilt, anxiety, and feelings of inadequacy is crushing.
If this sounds like your experience, you’re not alone. Many new mothers struggle with these intense emotions and thoughts. And it's not your fault. Between the emotional, physical, and relational, the transition to motherhood is one of the most significant life changes you’ll ever go through, and it’s normal to need support in coping with the emotional toll. The good news is that therapy can help.
As a therapist specializing in postpartum anxiety and depression, I help mothers like you navigate this challenging time. Together, we’ll build coping strategies, process your emotions, and work to restore a sense of balance and identity in your life. You deserve to feel whole again. And it is absolutely possible to enjoy your journey through motherhood, even if it feels impossible right now.
Postpartum does not have to feel this hard.
Motherhood is overwhelming, and many women find that their usual ways of coping with stress or anxiety just don’t work after they become moms. Before having a baby, you may have been able to manage worry or feeling low by throwing your energy into work or having a night out with friends. But now, those coping skills feel out of reach. You may find yourself stuck in an unending cycle of worry, guilt, and exhaustion, unsure how to break free.
why might someone seek postpartum therapy?
Here are some of the most common reasons why new mothers seek postpartum therapy:
- Feeling like a failure as a mom
New motherhood can bring up deep-seated feelings of inadequacy. You may feel like you’re not living up to the "perfect" standards of motherhood—whether that’s based on social media portrayals, societal expectations, or just the pressure you put on yourself. If you’re struggling with feeling competent in your new role, therapy can help you work through these feelings and recognize that perfection is an impossible goal.
- You had an unexpected or traumatic birth experience
Some women experience unanticipated, difficult, or even traumatic birth experiences that leave emotional and physical scars. A complicated labor, emergency C-section, or even a “typical” birth can affect your mental and emotional health long after you leave the hospital. Birth trauma can lead to feelings of guilt, anger, or fear, and it may complicate your ability to bond with your baby. Working through this trauma with a therapist can help you process the experience and find healing.
- You feel like you are white-knuckling your way through the day
If your days feel like you’re barely holding on, you’re not alone. Many new moms feel like they are treading water, simply trying to survive. Anxiety, lack of sleep, and the constant demands of motherhood can leave you feeling drained and overwhelmed. Therapy helps by providing you with tools to manage this stress and create healthier coping strategies that work in the context of your new life as a mom.
- Constantly worrying something bad will happen to your baby
If you find yourself consumed with worry about your baby’s safety or health, you might be dealing with postpartum anxiety. Many moms experience intrusive, distressing thoughts—such as imagining worst-case scenarios—about their baby. While worrying about your baby is natural, it can take a significant toll on your emotional well-being when it becomes overwhelming and irrational. Therapy can help you challenge these thoughts, cope with the distress, and build strategies for calming your mind.
- Thoughts about yourself or your baby that scare you
It’s normal for new mothers to have worries, but when those worries feel intrusive or scary—like fearing you might harm your baby, even though you would never actually do it—it can be deeply distressing. You may feel ashamed of these thoughts and afraid to share them with others. The truth is, these thoughts are more common than you might think, and therapy can help you understand them without shame.
- You can’t remember the last time you did something for yourself
Self-care often falls by the wayside after having a baby. The demands of your newborn, combined with physical exhaustion and emotional stress, can make it hard to take care of yourself. You may feel guilty for even considering taking a time out, but the truth is that self-care isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. In therapy, we work together to identify ways you can care for yourself while balancing your role as a mom.
If any of these struggles resonate with you, therapy can provide the support you need to manage postpartum anxiety and depression. It's okay to ask for help, and doing so can be the first step toward healing.
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Postpartum Anxiety
While it's true that many new moms experience some level of anxiety, postpartum anxiety is marked by an ongoing sense of fear, worry, or unease that disrupts your daily life. If you’re unsure whether you have postpartum anxiety, here are some of the most common questions and concerns that come up:
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While many therapeutic modalities are beneficial in treating postpartum anxiety, I rely heavily on ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy). ACT is particularly helpful for postpartum anxiety because it focuses on navigating thoughts and feelings without becoming overwhelmed by them. Think of your mind as a cluttered room full of boxes, each representing a different thought or emotion. When you’re experiencing postpartum anxiety, it might feel like there are too many boxes piling up, and you don't know where to begin or how to make sense of it all.
ACT helps you step back and learn to accept these "boxes" as they are, rather than trying to control or get rid of them completely. It's not about fighting the anxiety or suppressing those difficult feelings, but about acknowledging and making room for them without letting them take over the whole room. Imagine being in that cluttered room and learning how to move around the boxes, work with them, and still find a way to navigate the space—without letting it paralyze you.
In ACT, you’re also guided to clarify your values—what truly matters to you- like being present with your baby or maintaining your self-care. Once you know your values, you can take small, purposeful steps toward them, even when the anxiety is present. It’s like trying to move towards a destination in a fog. The fog might still be there, but you can still take steps toward what’s meaningful to you without waiting for the fog to disappear.
By accepting your anxiety instead of trying to push it away and focusing on what truly matters, ACT allows you to lead a more flexible and fulfilling life, even in the face of the challenges of postpartum anxiety.
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Postpartum anxiety is typically treated with a combination of therapy and, when necessary, medication. In therapy, we focus on identifying the triggers of your anxiety, such as your fears for your baby’s safety or feelings of inadequacy. We then work together to develop coping strategies and challenge irrational thoughts. Some moms also find that medication, such as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), can help regulate mood and anxiety symptoms. We’ll discuss all your options and tailor an approach that works best for you.
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Overcoming new mom anxiety starts with self-compassion. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking you should be able to handle everything on your own, but the reality is that new motherhood is a huge adjustment. In therapy, we work to help you manage your anxiety by addressing the root causes—whether that’s fear of inadequacy, lack of support, or overwhelming responsibility—and helping you build healthier thought patterns. Over time, you’ll learn how to respond to anxiety in a more balanced, calm way.
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Panic attacks can occur after childbirth due to a combination of physical and emotional factors. The hormonal shifts that occur after birth, the lack of sleep, and the stress of caring for a newborn can all contribute to the onset of panic attacks. Panic attacks often feel sudden and overwhelming, but therapy can help by providing you with tools to manage the physical sensations of panic and to address the root causes of these attacks.
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For some women, postpartum anxiety may be a temporary state as they adjust to their new role. For others, however, it may persist and even worsen without treatment. The good news is that postpartum anxiety can be treated. With the right therapy and support, it is possible to regain a sense of calm, confidence, and control.
You don’t have to go through this alone. If you're struggling with postpartum anxiety, depression, or overwhelming emotions, therapy can help. At our clinic, we offer a safe, supportive space where you can share your experiences, explore your feelings, and develop the tools you need to navigate this challenging time in your life.
We understand that new motherhood can feel isolating and overwhelming. That's why our approach is holistic, compassionate, and tailored to your specific needs. We work with you to address the root causes of your anxiety or depression, whether it’s related to your identity as a new mother, your birth experience, the overwhelming demands of caring for a newborn, or something deeper that’s been with you since childhood. You are more than your struggles.
Through therapy, we’ll help you build a deeper understanding of yourself, develop coping mechanisms that work in your real life, and reestablish a sense of joy and peace. Together, we’ll work to shift your negative thought patterns, build self-compassion, and help you reconnect with your identity as a woman, not just a mom.
How We Can Help
My approach to the treatment of postpartum anxiety and depression stems from my lived experience. I understand where you are because I’ve been there, too, and after doing my own hard work in therapy, I found contentment, peace, and fulfillment in my new role as a mother. Since then, I have been passionate about supporting women and their families through the intense and beautiful transition of new parenthood.
With advanced training in Perinatal Mood Disorders, Perinatal Mental Health Psychotherapy, and Reproductive Trauma, my approach to postpartum depression and anxiety therapy combines the best of evidence-based practices to offer a comprehensive, compassionate, and highly personalized treatment experience. Unlike other therapists who may offer a one-size-fits-all approach, I tailor therapy to each individual, creating a safe space where clients can rediscover their sense of self, connect deeply with their baby, and rewrite their postpartum story with confidence. If you’re struggling with postpartum depression or anxiety, my integrative, empathetic approach offers a unique path to healing and empowerment, helping you move from simply surviving to truly thriving in this new chapter of your life.
My Approach to the Treatment of
Postpartum Anxiety and Depression
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Postpartum Depression
If you’re feeling down, hopeless, or disconnected from your sense of self after childbirth, you may be experiencing postpartum depression. Unlike the "baby blues", postpartum depression lingers beyond the first few weeks after birth and can interfere with your ability to bond with your baby or care for yourself. If you're unsure whether what you're experiencing is postpartum depression, here are some common questions:
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ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) is particularly effective for postpartum depression because it helps mothers develop psychological flexibility in the face of overwhelming emotions like sadness, guilt, and anxiety. Instead of trying to push away or control difficult feelings, ACT encourages acceptance of these emotions, allowing mothers to experience them without judgment or self-criticism. This approach reduces the power of negative emotions by teaching mindfulness skills that foster awareness and self-compassion. By identifying and focusing on core values—such as being present for their baby or taking care of themselves—ACT empowers mothers to take meaningful actions even when depression feels overwhelming. This allows them to break free from the cycle of emotional avoidance and negative thinking, leading to a more balanced, fulfilling approach to motherhood despite the challenges they face.
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Some coping strategies for postpartum depression include developing a strong support system, practicing self-care (even in small ways), and using mindfulness techniques to stay present. Therapy can also provide tools to help you process your feelings and build resilience.
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Postpartum depression can look different for every woman, but common signs include feeling sad or empty, having trouble sleeping, experiencing irritability or anger, feeling disconnected from your baby, and struggling with guilt or shame.
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Postpartum depression can last for several months, but with treatment, most women begin to feel better within a few weeks to a few months. The earlier you seek help, the quicker you can start to feel better.
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Taking care of yourself when you're experiencing postpartum depression (PPD) can feel incredibly difficult, but it’s essential for both your well-being and your ability to care for your baby. Here are some key self-care strategies to consider when you’re navigating postpartum depression:
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings
It’s normal to feel overwhelmed, sad, or disconnected during this time, but it’s also important to recognize that postpartum depression is an illness, not a reflection of your abilities as a mother. Give yourself permission to feel what you’re feeling, and try not to be too hard on yourself. Reaching out for help—whether to a therapist, partner, or trusted friend—can make a big difference.
2. Reach Out for Support
One of the most important things you can do is lean on your support system. Talk to your partner, friends, or family about what you're experiencing. Isolation can worsen depression, so allowing others to help with baby care or household tasks gives you some breathing room to focus on healing. Joining a postpartum support group (in-person or online) can also help you connect with others who understand what you’re going through.
3. Seek Professional Help
Postpartum depression is treatable, and speaking with a therapist, especially one experienced in perinatal mental health, can provide valuable support. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), or interpersonal therapy (IPT) can be particularly helpful. In some cases, medication prescribed by your doctor or psychiatrist may also be necessary. Don’t hesitate to reach out for professional help; there is no shame in seeking treatment.
4. Prioritize Rest
Sleep deprivation is a common trigger for worsening depression. Try to rest when you can—take naps during the day when the baby sleeps, or ask a partner, friend, or family member to help with nighttime feedings or baby care so you can catch up on sleep. Even a small amount of rest can help improve mood and energy levels.
5. Practice Self-Compassion
It’s easy to feel like you should be "perfect" or have it all together, but being kind to yourself is vital. Recognize that motherhood is challenging, and you don’t have to do it all. Celebrate small victories, like getting out of bed, taking a shower, or eating a meal. Remember that taking care of yourself is part of taking care of your baby.
6. Get Light Movement
If you’re feeling physically able, light exercise like a walk with your baby in a stroller or gentle stretching can help lift your mood. Physical activity releases endorphins, which can help improve feelings of well-being. But don’t push yourself too hard—just moving your body a little can help you feel more energized and connected to yourself.
7. Eat Well and Stay Hydrated
Your body needs good nutrition to recover physically and emotionally. Eating regular, balanced meals and staying hydrated can help stabilize your mood and energy levels. If you’re struggling to make time for meals, consider prepping easy, nutritious snacks or asking someone to help with meal prep.
8. Create Moments of Calm
Taking short breaks to calm your mind can be incredibly helpful. Practice deep breathing, mindfulness, or meditation to help reduce stress and anxiety. Even taking 5-10 minutes for yourself can provide relief and help you feel more grounded. You might also consider using soothing techniques like listening to calming music or taking a warm bath.
9. Give Yourself Permission to Ask for Help
You don’t have to do everything alone, and asking for help is not a sign of weakness. Whether it’s having someone take over household tasks, helping with baby care, or simply listening to how you’re feeling, having support can lighten the emotional load. Don’t hesitate to reach out to your partner, family, friends, or even a professional for help with caregiving and mental health.
10. Know That It’s Okay to Seek Medication
Postpartum depression can sometimes require medication to get better. If you're struggling to manage your symptoms, reach out to your doctor or psychiatrist about antidepressants or other options. There’s no shame in taking medication if it helps you feel better—it’s a tool that can allow you to function more effectively and recover more quickly.
Remember, postpartum depression doesn’t define you, and it’s not something you have to go through alone. Taking small steps to care for yourself, reaching out for support, and seeking professional help are all ways you can start to feel better. You are not weak for needing help, and with time and proper care, healing is possible.
Begin Therapy for Postpartum Anxiety and Depression in Houston, TX
You don’t have to navigate the challenges of new motherhood alone. Therapy can help you manage your worry, self-doubt, and the emotional stress of this transformative time. If you’re ready to find genuine joy in motherhood, slow down the hamster wheel in your mind, and reconnect with yourself, we can help.
Our Houston therapy clinic offers compassionate therapy for postpartum anxiety and depression.
To begin your journey, follow these simple steps:
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Other Counseling Services at Sarah Duran Psychotherapy
Postpartum Anxiety and Depression counseling is not the only service we offer at our Houston counseling clinic. We understand that families like yours are multifaceted and may have other concerns you would like to address. Other therapy services Sarah Duran Psychotherapy provides include treatment of reproductive trauma (including infertility, pregnancy loss, and birth trauma) and play therapy.